Bob I was once a family member 1975-76 maybe you have a word for me I'M divorced now but my wife left me for a nother man and I understand why the thing is just before she told me about him and thru me out she said some things to me while we were making love like I dont kiss her right and I dont turn her on and I dont touch her boobs right plus I didnt feel the love from her and she said these things to me one by one each time I'd make love to her in about one months time and then I couldnt get up for her and she skreemed and yeld at me that I didnt love her and then she told me about the boy freind. Now I have a little fear when I'm when I am about to make it with a woman this has happened a few times one nice girl finally got it out of me.Why am I going thru this I was marreid 10 years and no problem do you think it is stress or mental blockages it's like I need to feel safe and loved by the woman to be abel to be there for her what's up with me may be you have some advice. I've been single 15yrs now and I'm still dealing with it,my ex thru the years made some half hearted jestures but because of our experince in bed the last times we where together has stoped us and she thinks It's all me and not the things she said to me during that time and now we dont even talk.