Bob, thank you so much for taking the time to answer my questions. I have reread your answers every day this week and have been thinking about them.

You are definitely right when you said, "You have written about your daughter but it seems that you are struggling with your husband as well." Yes, I guess that is really a major issue in my life. I am confused about what to do. It has been almost 2 1/2 years since he left. I don't know if he ever thinks about coming back, and I know I don't want him to come back if he is going to continue to have relationships with other people (men or women) behind my back. Some people tell me that I need to just go ahead and divorce him, other people have said that if he isn't asking for a divorce that I should wait. I just don't know what is considered an appropriate time to wait. How do you know when you should get a divorce? And I guess I am afraid that if I do pursue a divorce that I will lose all communication with him, and that will be the end of things. I think the definiteness of it just scares me a lot.

On the other hand, I hear or read sometimes that there are people who are gay that choose to be straight and lead a straight life and do so successfully, but I have never met any. So it's hard for me to think that things will change, as much as I want them to. Are there statistics about that? Yes, I believe in miracles, but am I really deceiving myself? And if it's not going to happen, where do I go from here?

I know these are not really cult questions, but in a way, I think it is all related. It's all about how all of those years were distorted by false teachings regarding sex, marriage, family, etc. So I think there is a connection.

My daughter has calmed down a lot, thank God. I have not had a chance to sit and talk with her, but I am going to do so. My husband came and visited the other night, and we took her and her boyfriend out to eat. That seemed to really do a lot to cheer her up. Thanks for all your counsel regarding her situation. I appreciate it.