Dear “28 Years”,

Far be it for me to tell you what to do with your personal life. However, as you seem to imply and understand, your relationship with this young man is very unusual. There is much more information that I would need in order to give you my opinion about your circumstances. Where did you meet? Is this a Family related relationship? How did you meet? How were you attracted to a 22 year old male, and what did you find in common with someone so much your junior that encouraged you to continue the relationship? What do you now have together that you share in common? These are just some of the questions that I would need to have answered.

Most 24 year males are pretty immature. You have had life experiences that he has not had, nor will he understand, until he is close to your age. Those experiences have given to you a certain measure of maturity that you (or he) did not have at 24 years of age.

Some other issues you may want to consider are these. You have, right now, much less energy than you had when you were in your 40’s, let alone 30’s or 20’s. He is just entering into his prime of life. It is also the case that people age more quickly the older they become. Thus, ten years of aging for you is not anywhere equivalent to ten years of aging for him. When you are 64 he will be only 34. How will you deal with that? How will he deal with that?

What is the real draw for you? Are you trying to recapture your youth? Does it feed your ego to have a young man by your side? What about for him? Is he seeking a mother figure? Is he taking advantage of your material stability? Does he work? Can he support himself and you? Does he have goals and dreams that are realistic? Does he want to have a family?

If we were able to sit down together and talk, these are the kind of questions that I would ask you to try and honestly answer for yourself.