I am a 2nd gener who was born and raised in the Family. I am married to a 2nd gener hubby. We have several children under 5. I have been to hell and back many times, personally, within the Family, and many times while out of the Family, yet, I have managed to get a degree and am quite capable of functioning on my own should I have to, although I'd sooner he recover. I love him! I'm struggling with martyrdom, hoping and praying that my husband will come through for me and the little ones. I am trying to "get the victory" and be long suffering and all of that but, honestly, I don't need another baby in the home. The alcoholism is severe enough to cause tremors. He needs help but, so far, hasn't gone for any. He's not too far away from his friends and other loved ones who like to drink it up and that gives him an excuse among all the other hundreds of excuses to have a drink. Yes, I am angry! Where's the line between issuing an ultimatum and/or carrying him till, hopefully, he comes out of it and heals. Striking out on my own would, well, leave me alone, at least for a time, and probably make him even worse. Then there's the after the breakup co-parenting thing and all the other madness that comes with an addiction running out of control should he not heal. AARGH!