Dear Dr. Bob,

Thank you for taking the time to give us counsel. I know you must be so busy, so I really appreciate your time with this.

I don't want to write a lengthy question so here is my situation in short:

I was an FFer (Flirty Fisher) for many years in the Family. I used to love sex and the "free love" atmosphere for many years. But, when I had the pressure of bringing in finances for the "home" or when I had to "take care" of a certain "fish" because he was a "king"... this started to take away my liking to sex.
I was not married when I was FFing, which probably made it easier for me to keep doing it for so many years... I was getting my sexual needs met as well!
But now, after being out of the Family for a couple of years, I'm trying to come to some understand about my physical conditions... which I couldn't while in the Family.
One is this: I have had no desire for sex for over 10 years. My husband knows this and is understanding, but he has his needs and I want to be able to meet his needs as well as enjoy this aspect of marriage... enjoy it... not just do it for duty sake.
I finished my menopause early... because of my ovaries being removed a long time ago. I know this may be a factor.
But, I was wondering if my long time experience having sex with all kinds of men, in all kinds of positions, getting constant STD's (I still have herpes), getting raped twice, and being forced to have sex when I didn't want to anymore... do you think that this may have something to do with my lack of libido now???