Dear “Husband”

I truly appreciate your comments and am more than pleased to here that you and your wife are negotiating middle ground to work from.

I was also delighted to read your lengthy explanation of your recovery. If what you describe is accurate you have done much hard work that most former members of destructive groups don’t do. You are to be commended for that, and your experience of life will certainly be far richer and fuller. I can understand why some of your friends would want you to tell your story in writing. Most former members live lives of “quiet desperation.” You have much to offer just by way of example.

I was intrigued by your comment that you found some professional help. Most former members (including us as professionals looking for others to refer to) find it extremely difficult to find anyone who understands cults and trauma whom they do not have to educate. I would encourage you to let other former Family members in your area (who want help) to know about this person.

Thank you for sharing your story. I hope things continue to work out well for you and your wife. I also hope that you can both be a source of encouragement to others who struggle to put their lives back together again.