Dear Bob, Iīve got a heavy load to carry and I do need your advice. I left TFI more then seven years ago with all of my kids, eight of them. Ever since I left I had this odd impression that my Ex had molested at least one of my daughters, there are four of them. Just recently while talking with my son in law and about our life in TF and whatīs going on now I told him of my suspicion and I was right. But my daughter doesnīt want to talk with me about what had happened. He told me that she doesnīt talk with me as she doesnīt want me to feel bad about it. But I DO feel bad about it that she is NOT talking. From all my kids she is the only one still having contact with him. My other kids are glad he is far away. He in Brazil -we in Germany. He even asked her to go to the city hall to get a certain certificate. I asked her why she is doing that for him. She said why not itīs no big thing for me. Her fathers behaviour towards her what I would call sickening / assozial in german). We even joked about him when we spent time on the beach and he looking after the young teenage-girls : dirty-old-man. He even thought it was funny. But it is not.
How do I go about it? I feel so guilty, even though it was not me who sexually abused her, but I feel so guilty. And I feel like getting that man in prison with other inmates who hate child-molesters. I would like to make this all undone, like it never happened. But I cannot.
Thanks for taking time for me and this matter. Iīd really appriciate your help and advice in this.
Greetings from cold Germany