P.S. The son sustained a broken back in a truck accident but, he has a history of using people and manipulation and mistreating his mother verbally and emotionally and has hit her physically in the past. His own physical father wants nothing to do with him because of past bad behavior. This son has been divorced from his wife who he has beaten on different occasions according to his exwife and he does have a history of mental and emotional problems. I do believe this young man does need help but from those not under his manipulative control. The husband does see that this step son is not receptive to the counsel or advice of the step father and the stepson resents him (the step father) being married to the mother and has forcefully said so in the past and is beginning to make it very obvious lately although he has tryed to hide in since his back was broken and trying to get sympathy. The mother is very receptive to guilt trips from the son and when the step father came into the picture 6 years ago announced to all sons the days of manipulation are over. The mother obviously feels burdened for the son but goes against all the husbands advice or counsel and has at different times told the husband doent make me choose between you and my son. The husbands main concern is for this co-dependant son to get the help he needs but from other sources so he can get better not just physically but also mentally emotionally and spiritually.

> This is really happening and is putting so
> much stress on the marriage its manifesting
> itself in physical symptoms in both the
> husband and wife,besides all the contention
> it is causing. The Lord has already told
> both husband and wife in advance what to do
> but any time the husband brings up what the
> Lord has already shown it is met with
> resistance and multiple arguements ensue.
> The son in question I do believe is fully
> aware of the trouble he is causeing and has
> tryed to cause trouble many times in the
> past but now since his back is broken feels
> enabled to be at ease to continue his
> unbroken pattern. The wife feels it is now
> her mission to stand by the side of this son
> no matter what and that its only love to do
> so. I know because it is happening to me!