This is an update on the situation. The older son came over this morning knocking on the door again. At first I spoke peacefully to him but after I shut the door and he came back and wanted to talk again and started asking accusing questions which started esculating into and very negitive interchange.

I told him he needed to go and he just stood there mocking me and continuing to make accusations. I finally shut the door and he stood out side running his mouth and I told him to go or Im calling the police. He continued the same beligerant behavior and so I did and he stood there even talking with neighbors speaking evil of me till the police arrived.

When the police arrived he told them the reason he was over here was was to protect his mother because I beat her up all the time and no one protects her but him.

After the police questioned me it became obvious that his story was not matching up with facts and they had me tell him in their presence that I do not want him around this apt and he is not to come over here at all and if he does I will file criminal charges against him.

They then told him to go back to his apartment. I pray the Lord will get a real victory out of this situation. I belive the Lord will somehow but cant see the victory at the moment.

> I would ask if those with wisdom would like
> to give their imput into this issue I would
> be so appreciative as I plan to have my wife
> read these comments and told her tonight
> about what was written on here.

> We had another episode with the son tonight
> and I had already made it clear I did not
> want him to come over here and I did not
> want to have further communication for now
> with him as I did not want more heated
> confrontations with him and my wife getting
> upset and myself also.

> Ive been praying Lord how should I deal with
> this situation exactly. The son came over
> tonight because the younger son whos staying
> with him now and had some kind of argument
> and so the younger son came over to our apt
> to chill out.

> So the older son starts knocking on the
> door. The younger son goes out to talk to
> him but apparently it was going nowhere and
> the youger son was drained and tired from
> just having got off a 12hr shift at work.
> What ever the dispute was about it
> apparently was not getting worked out.

> So the younger son came back inside upset
> and the older son continued to knock on the
> door. I asked my wife didnt you tell him
> (the older son)not to come over here. The
> wife said yes I did and the older son
> continued to knock. I said well youd better
> tell him to go home or tonight I really will
> call the police.

> The night before I was going to but my wife
> talked me out of it. I said you'd better go
> take care of it then because if I have to go
> out there, there will be trouble! Last night
> the older son tryed to provoke me to hit him
> saying come on go ahead and hit me,go ahead
> and do it!

> So my wife went out and talked to him and
> apparently he calmed down a little and then
> when she came in he started knocking at the
> door and wanting to come in. I could hear
> him out side saying I thought you believed
> in forgiveness and saying different things
> and this was around 11pm when most people
> have gone to bed.

> I was getting extremely upset and shouted
> from inside where I was sitting you have 10
> seconds to go or Im calling the police. He
> continued running his mouth speaking
> loudly.My wife said please dont call the
> police.

> More than 10 seconds passed and he continued
> on with his carrying on even to the point of
> some fake crying and then carrying on again
> with his manipulative statements. His
> younger brother went to the door and told
> him he needed to leave as I picked up the
> phone to call the police against my wifes
> wishes.

> As I was giving the police our apt address
> he finally started to leave when he saw I
> meant business. I told the police he had
> left and they told me if he comes back to
> call them again and I could make out a no
> trespass report on him.

> He did not come back but a high level of
> tension and stress was the result of his
> visit. The younger son visibally upset
> knowing he was going to have to go back to
> the older brothers apt and go to sleep.

> I would appreciate any imput as at this
> point Im unsure what to do in this
> situation. My wife still defends her oldest
> sons bad behavior Icant talk sense to her.
> She is so stressed out I cant bring the
> subject up at this point in time. I would
> appreciate any good advice at this point.