In the not to distant past my wife took him to church and I believe he got prayed for. But I realize and I know she does too I believe that he has some deep rooted problems that arent going to go away over night. He sent his younger brother over here last night after she got home from her part time job saying he couldnt move his legs and could she come over and help him. He told his younger brother that his legs werent really bothering him that he just wanted her to come over and visit. She was so tired and when she found out that the younger brother admitted the real truth she got somewhat indignant and told the younger son that his brother better watch it crying wolf wolf, because if he does it one to many times no one will come to his aid when something really is wrong with him. whether or not he will willing to go for some long term counseling I couldnt say. I believe he needs it but whether or not he is willing I really dont know. I will talk it over with my wife. But unless funded by public assistance or free by some church it wont be possible as he has no money,no insurance, and is on food stamps presently while he recovers from his truck accident. Part of his rent is being paid by his younger brother and the other half from assistance agencies that my wife has gone to for help for him. His younger brother got laid off recently and I think she is running out of agencies to help him. And there is definitely no room in the inn here in our apt for him. I have forgiven him and even hugged him today and said he can come back over here to visit and even went over and helped clean up his apt but....... I gotta draw the line somewhere so I am praying the Lord will open a door somewhere for him to go and get lodging and help he needs and put some distance between us. I would appreciate any one who would pray with me on this in agreement. Thanks

> I could see helping him temporarily, but
> after that .....???? You're saying the wife
> is thinking permanently even if she says
> temporarily, right? Hmmmn! Are you sure of
> that or is that just an assumption?

> Have you been able to look for some
> counsellors for the son and is he willing to
> go while he heals? That could be a start.
> How would he feel about sitting three weeks
> in that pew? Maybe his mom could take him.
> No matter how you shake it, it's going to
> take time anyway. Might as well start now.
> His own (the son's) healing could take
> several years (depending on him) in an
> outpatient type of therapy such as
> couselling by the pastor. Admitting him to a
> clinic could speed things up and put him
> back on his feet, physically, emotionally,
> and spiritually a whole lot faster, but that
> could be astronomically costly unless you've
> got insurance. He's in his own apt, that's
> good! He's not too far from mom and that's
> not all that bad for now, if you can get him
> to respect a time for visits, which you seem
> to have been able to do by calling the cops.
> Hope that doesn't get undone. The pastor
> could give him the couselling, (better check
> the pastor out too) that would be good -
> help him uncover and deal with all the anger
> that drives him to be the way he is. He's
> trying to send a message here, however
> inappropriately. He's going to have to come
> to terms with all that if he's ever going to
> stop the madness, both within and without.
> He surely must resent a lot of things.

> If you squeeze, don't jerk, staying together
> as a couple can and will get better if you
> are willing to work hard at it, individually
> and as a team. Believe it or not, the two of
> you could even become one.