I thought you might have something to say cause you always have some good advice or additions to many topics here!
You sound like you have moved onto the next phase of life with grace and acceptance, though not without its difficulties. Thank you for sharing your experience and realizations you've made through all of it.
How many years is there between your first and second child?
> Hi PD, I have not written before on the
> subject, because I don't really have any
> tips to make it better.
> I just realized in reading all the posts,
> that because I got pregnant with my second
> child at 39, I blamed it all on the
> pregnancy and ''baby blues''when in fact it
> must have been the pre-menopause and
> menopause. A few months before getting
> pregnant, I had a surgery and I stopped
> smoking,then I got pregnant, and it was a
> very difficult pregnancy. I gained an
> enormous amount of weight, which I still
> carry years after.
> I was depressed after the birth, never found
> the same happiness and seemed to be in
> constant state of PMS.
> I tried to lose the weight, succeeded a bit,
> but never for long. I thought that it was
> the birth at an advanced age and the
> cesarian section that cut off your muscles
> in the specific area. But, I have learned
> that after 40, your metabolisme slows down
> anyway and that you have to make extra
> efforts to stay slim or speed up that
> metabolism: exercise wise or food intake.
> I have always been a very emotional person,
> so the ups and downs of my personnality just
> looked like they were more obvious with age,
> but that is also the hormonal changes. My
> husband says that I have always been the way
> I am... but I know that it is not so.
> Three years ago or so, my periods stopped, I
> thought that I would enjoy my freedom more,
> but it seems that it killed the desire,not
> that I mind personnaly,but...
> Small memory losses appear,is it menopausal
> or just a fact of life,also hair growing on
> the face and loss of hair where it supposed
> to be on your head is a bit difficult to
> take for an older woman.
> I am not whining but just try to show that
> these things happen to some of us.
> I have more patience in many ways,I stopped
> to envy other people who might have
> succeeded in fields I wanted to succeed, I
> want to live the last phase of my life in
> doing things I like to do and dreams that
> are still possible to fulfill. I want to
> read,write,sing and travel once I don`t need
> to work in a job that just brings the money
> to the mill.
> There are joys in our new condition. But,
> like I have said earlier, I never knew that
> it was the menopause, but just a more
> sensitive me, a more tired me but also a
> more knowledgeable and understanding me.