I think the subject of triggers is a really good one. Regarding returning to the family, I did not have that experience. But I think the addiction comparison is good. Some people quit a substance with social support and building up tools to stay clean. Others, like you describe, don't invest much in building support and have a harder time adjusting to life on the outside with all its challenges that many exers face. Still others just can't seem to quit no matter how many opportunities there are for help. I don't know why that is. But I can say that I am glad for the boards because they each have their niches in healing. Open house is a place where I can discuss a broad range of subjects and be reactive if that is where I am at, needing to vent or debate OR DICUSS and support. Bible search is a good forum for those who have not discarded faith in the religion the Family pretended to represent. Health Matters addresses natural aids to physical well being, and foreign language boards are up as well. I hope this forum will be, and does seem to be so far, a place where people can heal and support each other without debate or shaming or blaming. I am realizing the oppression in the family affected men in ways that women may not realize. I really would like to see some posts about what men experienced in the family that took away from their sense of self and independence. Sometimes it is harder for men to talk about this than it is for women to.