Hi Sweet Tired, I guess we moms all have one kid in the family that cost a lot of "life". One of my sons, I have four.12, 17 ,18 &25, ever was my "thumb" as I personally name him in my mind. After we left TF and my ex my son went through ups and down so extremly I was scared what will happen next. He pretended to go to school but half of that on year he just didn´t. he hung around some kids that were no good fellowship, were just no good influence. he had gotten involved with drugs, though on a "small" scale but still he took ém. I had a meeting with the principal of the school and they told me all what was going on with my son. I couldn´t believe it was him. The teachers were worried too and asked how we all could help my Philipp. It all came to this that all teachers except one wanted him to leave school. This one teacher saw the potencial Philipp has, plus her husband used to be my teacher in school, and took it on her responsibility to give him this chance. After that meeting I had a good talk, no sermon!, and explaind him that he could choose: taking this one teachers "faith", without using the expression faith and similar, and get going or hang around like a bum/criminal/drug-addict. He chose to take the teacher. I explained him that no matter what I would always help him but that he would break my heart and take part of my life should he waste his, I told him I love him, in my way. For me it is still a miracle how Phil was getting sober while we talked, and what became of him. His grades in school, something like a High-School, were getting better and better and left this on with an "B", because of 0.1 that it woukd have been an A. That´s the german grade here. Now he is finishing another High-School with super grades and his personality changed into the talents and person he is and I always saw in him.
Somewhere there is always hope for our kids, some sooner some later, don´t give up on him or yourself. He is your son and you gave so much of your life to him.
Who are his friends, did you ever meet them?
Do you know where he is hanging around?
What are his plans can he talk to someone in your family?
To me it sounds like he is hurt and lost at the same time and angry.
Tired I wish I could help you, cause I was desperate too about my son.
Did you ever think of getting professional help?
I wish the best for you and your son and pray for you two.
Tons of hugs and prayers

Erika