You are saying of true things. Your first statement is the most difficult to deal with. How can such a sweet boy turned into a what it seems to be an uncaring individual.
The first thing I had to learn though, was
> to not take it so personal. It was so
> difficult to see my sweet kind thoughful
> boys, turn into a defiant angry young man.
> But I now realise it is part of them
> becoming men.
My son does not really enjoy physical activities. He is always in his brain,trying to be intellectually superior to everyone. That is only with stuff that interests him at a given time,not necessarily the subjects he is supposed to study.
If he decided that it is Physics today and it is the flavor of the month,don't even try to have him focus on something else.

> At fifteen, then still need you desperately,
> but will also need their friends. If your
> son doesn't have a physical hobby, it is
> very important to get him in one.
The ''I'' technic could be a good one. I will try to remember that one.
> About communication, make sure you are using
> the "I" when you are communicating
> with him. Don't say "You always",
> say things like "I feel so hurt when
> you say things like this, it makes me feel
> that you don't care". > Another thing is repeating what they say, to
> make sure you understand and that they know
> you do understand.
Grounding is the hardest thing to do, it does not seem to work at all with him. You take away something and he will automatically say that he does not care. Also, you have to be able to have the grounding takes place. Sometime,it just does not work. I don't really want to explain why.
. Don't be afraid to ground your son either, I
> find my teenagers hate that the most, not
> being allowed out on the weekends. But your
> son my hate something else.
A lot of people told us that they don't really know how to deal with someone like him. He is extremely smart and manipulative, he is really not your typical teenager,even though he has all the characteristics that most teenager have. There are a lot of things about him that are really different from most.
It is extremely difficult to know what to do. We tried different things, but so far nothing really works. I am waiting to be surprised.
I am not too spiritual these days, so it is not that easy to rely on God to help. I still believe somewhere somehow, but my faith is very different to what it used to be.