It took me a long time as well, Lolo. I don't know why kids blame them-selves for their parent's failures but, all too often they do. I did. It sort of flavors everything for a while. It took some hard aggressive steps to get past it once I figured it out. I am still very defensive of single parent kids.

One thing I've learned, interacting with a lot of other folks at work etc. is we ALL come into a very broken world, as much as we would like to have been born into a perfect home, there just isn't one. They are all a bit dysfunctional to one degree or another.

Coming to Christ was such an awakening of reality, joy and uh...disappointment. "Now I'll be with Christians, who love and are honest and etc." History has proven that one to be a crock. But we didn't know history, or very much else and, yup we were cult bait!

But we are out. Halleluyah! Now we have the dubious responsibility of learning and growing and, Oh God forbid, trying to teach our children, when we ourselves know so little. I've always wondered what was God thinking when he gave children to teenagers. It's a raw formula for failure. We kind of grew up together. I do wonder what I will be when I grow up.