I have been mulling some something over in my head. Many of us have several children. In the COG we were convinced that having as many children as possible is a high Godly calling, and the God's army stuff, Mo's little red book of the future etc.

Anyway, I think y'all know what I mean. My question, well there are a lot of questions. I love all my children and there is a lot of my relationship with God tied up in them. All of them. But now my kids are having kids and I really don't think the same at all.

I have counseled my kids to stay virgin 'til marriage, have only the kids they choose to have, though I take a strong stand against abortion. That's a really complicated issue though. It's about the life of the women and the babies.

Some of my kids resent being part of a big family. They really are close and there are those special moments they are fabulous together, but there were times they were brutal on each other.

Some of them don't want to have children at all. They really approach child raising differently. One is super involved, almost obsessed by totally dedicated, another, it's a free for all. Another just blanks out. another is living for that 1st child - kind of like complete.

How has this multiple children side of the COG affected you ladies and how have you and your children approached these issues?