My husband and I are not together now, but we were together for 14 years after leaving the Family. I was so shocked how different we were outside the Family. We had different tastes in just about everything from furniture to how to spend free time. When we could finally afford to buy our first furniture, we had an awful time deciding because we didn't like what each other liked. It took us a long time, but we finally came to an agreement on something we could both tolerate. I wanted to have friends, he couldn't care less about having friends. We didn't agree much anymore on decisions with the kids. I wanted to be part of some kind of church or something, he wanted to be alone. Our views on things are completely opposite. He can't stand it that I watch sports with the kids, etc.
Well, after 14 years post-Family, I thought things had pretty much worked themselves out, but he surprised me by asking for a separation. That was 2 1/2 years ago. We are still living separate but still legally married. I need some help with this as I am no longer "ok" with this living arrangement. We are friends and talk every day, but that is about it. How long is enough time to wait and see what is going to happen?



