I agree, I don't know how some have managed at all. The kids had to take the brunt of the loss, and I think the mother's who had to live through it all must have really hurt a lot inside.
My kids now have developed their own mind about everything. The oldest who hollered the loudest about having "no kids" though has 4 now. She's done though. She was the one who had the most COG influence. She was also the one who was my right hand other-mother who did so very much for me to help with her siblings. She's done a lot of healing since then. She also an awesome mother. Lots of practice.