I read your post and really feel for you. It tears a mother to pieces to see their child, of any age, self-destructing.
I hope she will get some help.
You are right not to give her money.

> Hi, Woodie, thanks for asking. I appreciate
> that you are concerned. I have just not had
> much time to spend on the internet the last
> week or so.

> Last week was very difficult. My daughter
> had taken something (found out later
> probably Valium and Soma) and it led from
> one bad thing to another. She cannot
> tolerate anti-anxiety drugs at all. Her
> reaction to all of them is actually the
> direct opposite of what the effect should
> be. She becomes very loud, obnoxious, hyper,
> manic, and very difficult to be around. She
> alienates everyone, and you can see it
> immediately in her eyes when she has taken
> something. I have told her this over and
> over, but she just doesn't think it's true,
> so it doesn't faze her. She has taken high
> doses of soma before and thought she was
> going to die, as well as it slows down her
> speech and she can hardly talk. So she takes
> them at the same time to counteract each
> other.

> Anyhow, she had taken some medications. To
> make a long story short, I don't know what
> all happened, but her boyfriend beat her up
> pretty bad. Her face was all bruised, and he
> had kicked her in the knee and she couldn't
> walk. She looked really bad. But she was
> still doing whatever it was that she was
> doing, and so they were still fighting about
> it. Then they decided to move from their
> mobile home into a house to share with some
> "wonderful new friends." Everyone
> talked to her about NOT moving there with
> the boyfriend, but she doesn't listen, of
> course, when she is in that frame of mind.
> So now she has moved further away where she
> is rather isolated in a house without
> running water or electricity at the moment.
> I guess they are trying to get them turned
> on, but I am not contributing to them.

> I think she has been back to her normal self
> for a few days now. She has called every day
> to ask for money. I hate to see her go
> hungry, but I will not give her money
> because most likely it would go to drugs.
> She knows she can come here to eat, but now
> that the boyfriend is not welcome, they
> haven't been coming by. He goes to his
> grandmother's to eat, but she just goes
> without. What I hate is that she constantly
> begs for money, and if I don't give in, she
> starts calling all her siblings and anyone
> else she can think of and bugs them.

> Ususally if I feel she really needs
> something, I will go buy it and give it to
> her, but I do not give her cash. They drive
> a cadillac so gas is a big problem. In the
> past, I would sometimes go with them to the
> gas station and put $10 of gas in their car
> on my debit card. Tonight I heard a new one
> - the gas line leaks, and so they can't put
> gas in tonight because it would be gone by
> morning. They just need the money instead so
> they can put it in in the morning, and he
> can get to work. That one really took some
> thinking!

> Right now, we don't know from one day to the
> next what she will be like. She thinks she
> can't apply for a job without taking
> something for anxiety, but no one in their
> right mind would hire her once they see what
> she is like on anti-anxiety meds. She
> doesn't get it.

> So...that is where we are at right now. I am
> having to just trust the Lord for her
> protection because she is not doing anything
> to help herself. But she is not at her
> worst, for that I am thankful. Thanks for
> thinking of us, and all prayers are greatly
> appreciated!