I though Id offer a few quotes from a book Geo and I found very very helpful, encouraging and empowering. "The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse", David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen.

God breathed His Word to give us Life, to equip us to live, and to guide us through life. Paul says in 2 Tim 3 that "All scripture is inspired by God"... Somehow however because of how God's Word has been applied it has not been a help but a hindrance. Instead of being a light leading people in the path of Truth, it has been employed as a tool to keep in the dark those secrets that destroy families and churches. Instead of being "revived by His precepts" PS 119:93 some victims of various kinds of abuse have been further abused and betrayed as the Word has been misuesd to minimize their pain and excuse their perpetrators.... God does not have a problem with our pain or with our process of coming to spiritual health. In 2Cor 7:7 Paul admits to exhaustion, fear and depression. But he also rejoices in God who comforts the depressed.