> I'd like to hear your experience in this if
> you care to share it. How did it break up,
> how has it affected you children, and you.
> This is a very relative subject today; for
> X-COG and the world around us.

> I have heard from a friend and woman Bishop
> in Russia that the Russian Parliament is
> considering making it legal, as "Every
> one has a mistress, why not make her
> legal". The French, it seems has
> created their own monster and in Africa it
> is a hot debate, especially in the Church.
> The women who have 5-10 kids want the help.
> They get little if any from their husbands.
> They often work and support the family with
> the youngest child tied to their backs.

> The un-married with the perspective of being
> sold (yes, sold for a bride price) into
> these marriages with older men and other
> wives, and thrown out women, don't like it
> and see the problems from another point of
> view.

> The Northern Islamic communities have little
> respect for women and want what they want.
> They brutally circumcise their girls. I know
> some of these women from all of these
> groups. I was at a discussion with over 100
> ministers, mostly women themselves from
> Africa, Russia, Romania, China and So.
> America and the subject of Polygamy came up.
> It's a brutal sore in many ways and the
> women carry the burden of it. The discussion
> was not "How can we stop it", it
> is! And that's another subject. The
> discussion was "What can we do to
> protect the women and children who are the
> victims".

> Often the OT is used to justify it, but I
> can not find one case where the women;
> Sarah, Haggar, Katurah, Rachel, Leah, Bilha,
> Zilpa, Hannah, were not, in reality, grieved
> by one aspect or another of polygamy.

That kind of burns me that they use the OT to justify polygamy. If it were justified then why aren't they practicing it in Jewish communities? For some reason, they no longer practice that. They no longer practice stoning adulterers either. In a way, they were able to grow up from many of these cultural practices, which is what they were, they weren't commandments.

Well, as for me, I never wanted the second wife and went into huge terrible trials and made it clear I was not happy about it. I demanded that my husband stop it, but he would shove Mo letters in my face like One Wife and Jealousy and then other shepherds would jump to his defense. They used Esther's story and how Berg gave Hosea Becky (was that her name) as another wife. I did write a lot about this (I think) in my story on ExFamily. I'm not sure, but I thought Joseph was going to put it up here too. Anyway, I was forced to accept it. I kept hoping that the other wife would end up having to leave. I would console myself that I was the first wife with all the children so I'd be safe, but it wasn't true. Of course, the kids saw me so unhappy and that wasn't good. Then when I left with almost all of them, by myself, it was crazy for all of us. We really went through it for quite a few years. I know some of the older children do not want to get married or have children. They are not very happy with their father and that is quite sad.

He has been to visit about 3 or 4 times. Each time he has upset the children so much, that I finally sent a message that he better not come here to raise money for his work anymore or I will turn him in. Now I'm the enemy in their eyes. Nevermind, his 3 oldest from his second marriage left TF and consider me the source of their inspiration. Ah, poetic justice.