Yeah, Jeffries did bring all this to mind again. Well, to answer your question, I was supposed to be "one" with everyone, the other wife included. But I would never allow her to even be my friend. In my view, she ruined our marriage. First it started off that my husband would go into her room once a week, then she demanded that they would be together every other night. For me, it was like hell. Then I started a relationship with another brother. Should be no problem, right? I should be able to be free to do what I want, not just my husband, right? That was my reasoning. Well, it didn't sit well with my husband at all, he went ballistic. I brought it up to leadership and they did nothing, unlike how they raked me over the coals for not accepting the one wife, or the sharing, etc. I couldn't figure that out, there was no fairness and it didn't make sense. I was angry for a long time. The second wife always tried to be my friend, and I would put on the pretense, but in my heart I hated her for what she did. At first she was helping us with our kids, then they started the relationship, then she moved in. Then she started having children. By the time she had 3 kids she was demanding that I help with HER kids. What? I had 6 or 7 kids myself, what gave her the right to be so demanding. Then a funny thing happened. My husband started an affair with another sister and all of a sudden, the second wife was all jealous and freaking out. I thought, well that's fine, no one even cares about the first wife anymore. Geeze.

In other cultures, I guess there is a real strict set of rules when it comes to this type of relationship. Not saying it's right, but it's a lot more organized or there is less confusion. Usually, if I'm not mistaken, the first wife makes all the rules and the other wives have to follow. I think that's like in Islamic and other 3rd world countries.

> Coincidentally, I was on another board last
> week where polygamy was being discussed.
> [Guess it has to do with the recent arrest
> of Jeffers (?sp).] There were several
> posters on that board that said that in a
> polygamous marriage that everyone was
> considered married to each other. I can see
> that some of the wives may feel this way,
> but I don't believe that they would be in
> any way legally bound to one another. Of
> course, I can imagine that it could get very
> complicated when it comes to material
> ownership, if the husband was to die, unless
> each wife had her own room, tent or home
> where she was able to keep track of her own
> furnishings, etc., or if a contract was
> drawn up to protect each wife's belongings.
> Since TF was already a commune and no one
> owned much of anything, except for some
> leadership, I doubt that there would have
> been much of a problem in regard to material
> things. But my question is: did you feel
> that you were married to your husband as
> well as each of his wives, or were you
> strictly married to your husband alone?