I agree Lolo. And you're right, she and I have talked for hours and she can always see it at the end, but not enough to really to see it coming again.

You're so right about the tornado whizzing one off course. She's just blind as a bat with every new relationship. That's a good description of the COG in my life as well which was on the heels of a 6 yr abusive relationship. I though I was over that and able to make conscious decisions again. Boom! Not so. It takes a lot of time and work to rebuild a self image.