If it happened to me, I'd be suspicious. How about you?

Humm? Suspicious, YES, but both ways seem a bit suspicious. History and culture and some say the Bible, gives men permission to look for girls to marry. I have a friend in Kenya who is married to a man quite a bit her Senior; an Archbishop and there are a lot of other men, other than her husband in charge of her life. (that does tend to be an established standard in much of the 3rd world, though that is changing more in the larger cities). I find that it makes relationship difficult for one reason, the era and experience of early learning is often very different; less so in older traditional countries. Also the girl is considered and treated like a child. Many cultures encourage or even allow little relationship between spouses, and the marriage is basically to bring an heir, usually male. As for Bible role models, I find the Bible often clearly portrayed the life of many of the women was far from safe, secure and often tending toward abuse. Communities developed among the women for survival, though there was often a great deal of rivalry. Now that that is off my chest! Ha!

The other side, Yes, I find it as suspicious, but for other reasons. In many cases, the women seem to be unwilling to relinquish their own gained power, and in a world where power is so often abused, I'm not sure I can blame them. But most of us live in the western world where male/female relationship has come to mean little about raising a family, enriched relationship and making a better community and world (as is the idea behind, oddly enough, community based arranged marriages, not that it always turns out that way), and is more about personal gratification and status. (hmm not so different than the males in the 3rd world) All that to say, it seems part of the brokenness of this often difficult world, not the healing. But, then it could happen and be a good thing, among the right people. I’m not talking “Harold and Maude’ but, often broken people find healing where they can and I’m not totally willing to judge others relationships.

I'm 5 years older than Geo. And we’ve made it almost 35 years. I was in College at 16 and Geo was just entering 6th grade. Yikes! My friend in Kenya is 20yrs younger than her husband. Life for her is not really what we in the west would call, normal. She has had to grow up quickly to survive. She and her husband are very close, but there is a lot of pressure from others in her church and family community.
Yikes! Was that an answer?