I did that once (start a support group for ex-culties) but not for long. Since then I have worked with others with other challenges besides cult pasts and it has helped me. Now I am not so up to it.
I spent so much time in the cult being a human doing that I am glad to take a break even if because of physical health, in order to be a human being. Still, volunteer work in an area I like is always refreshing. I see what you mean about how things that happen in life with people close to us or even via strangers can bring up feelings from the past. I am glad the situation you are talking about was resolved. Sometimes time resolves those things when people do not. Here is a big cyber hug to you {{{hug}}}
and I am glad you are on the other side of that pain.
Thanks for the tip on water aerobics. My doctor has suggested light exercise in warm water but I have just not done it so far.
> Scars are just that. And sometime, when you
> least expect it they fire off and affect
> everything. I'm adopted, and the deep
> feeling of abandonment was something I
> thought I had really dealt with. But then
> when my son got a girl PG and didn't want
> anything to do with the child, I went
> emotionally down the tubes. I just wanted to
> crawl into a dark room and die. I hurt too
> bad to be angry.

> I finally realized that I was empathizing
> for what that baby, yet unborn, would
> experience. I knew that pain and it hurt all
> over again. Things have turned around in
> that situation and my son is a good dad, but
> the reality of it was in my face.

> I've found that sometimes those scars can be
> healed in such a way that you can really
> offer healing to others in areas that few
> can understand. I'm not saying go out and
> start a support group for ex-cult victims,
> but there are people that often sit right
> next to us and no one knows, and some how
> they will let it out, say "I don't know
> why I'm telling you this. I have never told
> any one". and there you are, Not with
> all the answers but with an understanding
> heart. I often say the ladies I've talked to
> from prison ministry know way more about me
> that any one else.

> Try water Aerobics, Gin. It helps my
> arthritis a lot. I still hurt, but a lot
> less. I've put on a lot of muscle weight
> and... I can dance again. Yee Haw!

> My daughters and I are talking about a
> mother daughter triathlon in March. That's
> something to aim for. It's a mini, but -hey,
> if I walk across the finish 2 hrs late, who
> cares? They'll be at the end sayin' come on
> you old slug, Where do we eat tonight. I'll
> be lookin' for a hot tub!